Last week I celebrated my 29th birthday. It’s the last birthday of my twenties and it’s sort of blowing my mind. Mostly because I feel like I just graduated college last year and have barely started to master this whole adulting business. The reality is, I actually graduated 7 years ago and my master adulting skills are really just that I do laundry once I get to my last pair of underwear, not when I’m completely out. **Slaps hand to forehead**
I remember when I was 22 and so over being in college and imagining what my life would look like in the next 5-10 years. SPOILER ALERT—my life looks a little different than that vision of mine that I had while cramming for finals with a view of the Pacific Ocean in beautiful Santa Barbara. You know what though? It’s okay that my vision is turning out differently because I feel like I’m exactly where I should be and I love my life and the season that it’s in.
In celebration of my last 20-something birthday, I thought I would share with you all what I’ve learned in my twenties!
Always trust your gut, it will never fail you
Wear sunscreen daily, dark spots are REAL
Suck it up and wash your face before bed, your skin will thank you
Everyone’s life unfolds at different paces, enjoy your pace
March to the beat of your own drum
Comparison is the thief of joy
People only show you what they want you to see
It’s okay to be picky
You WILL get drunk from drinking wine in a can
Coconut water works hydration wonders after drinking too many cans of wine
Find a good dry shampoo that works for your hair
Be grateful, always
Enjoy the season of life you’re in, you’ll never get it back
Do you girl, do you
Always choose quality over quantity
Invest in experiences
Mistakes will happen, it’s important to learn from them
Life is too short to do things that don’t make you happy
Small things can lead to big changes
Hard work and hustle will pay off, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment
Simple is always better
Meal prepping will make a huge difference in your week, so will having your laundry done
There are so many things I’ve learned in the last 9 years and can only imagine what I’m going to learn from now until my 30th birthday and beyond. If you think your adulting skills are sub-par, don’t worry, I feel like I’m just starting to get the hang of it myself!
Cheers to a wonderful week!
Well hello there, Lovelies! We made it through the first week of a brand new year and are already heading into the second! Did you all set goals for this yew year? If you did, how are they going so far? I’ve been working on my list of goals and am finally ready to share them with you all. Truth be told, I’ve never actually been a huge believer in setting goals for the new year, until now. They’ve always kind of given me the scaries (you know, like the ones you get on Sunday night).
What changed my mind about setting goals? Well it’s simple, this year I actually have that feeling of “new year, new me”. Maybe not so much “new me” because I like the old me, but I could use a little bit of tweaking. Can’t we all though?
Why do I get the scaries when thinking about setting new years goals? Because I get anxiety from the pressure I put on myself to accomplish them. I am great at harshly critiquing myself if I don’t accomplish something that I want and if I don’t accomplish it the way I wanted to. I kid you not, I almost cried over burning my Christmas brownies. Who does that?! Well, apparently, I do! To be fair, I burned two batches back-to-back, sigh. My perfectionism gets the best of me sometimes and while being a perfectionist has its perks, it also has it’s downsides (you know, like crying over burned brownies).
Goal No. 1: HOLD MYSELF TO A STANDARD OF GRACE AND NOT PERFECTION
P.S.A.—If you haven’t read Emily Ley’s book, “Grace Not Perfection”, then you should because it’s good, like really good! Perfection is exhausting; it feels like you’re constantly on this hamster wheel that you can’t get off of day in and day out. Striving to constantly be perfect is not something I want to do all the time anymore. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to try my best, it just means if my brownies come out burned then they’re burned and life goes on. This year I am going to practice giving myself more grace and get off the hamster wheel of perfectionism because life doesn’t have to always be the perfect Pinterest landing page.
Goal No. 2: PRACTICE SELF COMPASSION
I need to be nicer to myself. What a strange sentence that is to write out, but seriously guys, I can be so mean to myself. I really have become my own worst critic and can be way too harsh on myself. I’ve come to realize that it’s not the best or healthiest trait to have. So this year I am going to work on less critiquing and more on soothing and consoling my own self like I would do with my friends and family. No more beating myself up when something doesn’t go perfectly as I planned out.
Goal No. 3: MAKE HEALTH A PRIORITY
This includes fitness, eating well, and getting more sleep. Since I’ve graduated college I have been so focused on growing my career and constantly striving towards the next step that I’ve put my own self on the back burner. Which mainly includes eating poorly and not getting enough exercise, and not getting nearly enough sleep. Most days I function on less than 6-hours of sleep and I think it’s starting to catch up with me. It may have taken me awhile but I’ve finally learned that you have to take care of yourself if you want to live your best life. Better late than never, right?! Maybe this new lifestyle change will inspire a new blog category! If you have any tips on these three things this sleep deprived gal would be forever grateful!
Goal No. 4: DITCH TRASH T.V.
Okay, maybe not entirely (I could never say goodbye to the Real Housewives) but ditching some of the shows seems necessary. I want to read more books; in fact I currently have 10 new books sitting by my nightstand that I want to read. The only way I see myself being able to read more is by cutting out most of the trash TV I love to watch. This is our official goodbye, “Vanderpump Rules” and hello to “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.”
Goal No. 5: KEEP THE CLUTTER AWAY
We live in a 600sqft apartment so we have no room for anything we don’t love or need on a regular basis. This is where I’m hoping “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” will come into play.
Goal No. 6: PLAN FOR ADVENTURES
This year I plan to get a date and travel itinerary for the Paris trip I’ve been longing to take. Planning for adventure doesn’t just mean traveling. I’m leaving it open for new experiences like trying a new restaurant or bar, taking up a new activity, or cooking a new recipe.
Goal No. 7: CREATE AN EDITORIAL CALENDAR AND IDEA BANK FOR THE BLOG
I am SO bad at organizing anything blog related that I’m basically a hot mess when I try to. So, my goal for this year is to get more organized so that my posting schedule isn’t so sporadic for all you lovely readers.
Goal No. 8: BUY FRESH FLOWERS EVERY WEEK
This may seem like a trivial goal, but I realized this year that having fresh flowers around the apartment makes me happy. To me, it’s a small price to pay for something that brings me happiness.
Goal No. 9: STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES
Literally! I’m so guilty of getting caught up with the hustle and bustle of everyday. Constantly rushing from one thing to the next that I never stop to enjoy the small things through out my day. What’s an extra 5 minutes to stop and smell the roses, or enjoy the view, or soak up that California sunshine? It’s such a small change that I really think I will reap the rewards from in my day to day life.
Goal No. 10: REMEMBER THAT EACH DAY IS A BLESSING
Whether it’s a good day or a bad day, each new day that our feet hit the floor when we get out of bed in the morning is a blessing. I think remembering this each day with help me to continue to have a grateful heart for everything in my life; good or bad.
Thanks for sticking with me through this super lengthy post. Can’t wait to hear all of your goals!
You were good to me, but it’s time to say…Goodbye, 2015!
You were filled with constant change. Change that made me realize life is ever changing and it’s best to embrace it rather than fear it.
You were filled with sweet adventures. Adventures so full of delight and beautiful sights that it reignited my love for that feeling of wanderlust.
You were filled with challenges. Challenges that forced me to make the hard decisions that I otherwise may not have.
You were filled with great rewards. Rewards that were reaped from hard work and a whole lot of hustle.
You were filled with life lessons. Lessons that were sometimes good and sometimes bad but always purposeful.
You were filled with new beginnings. Beginnings that that took a lot of courage to start.
Thanks for the adventure, 2015; it’s time for a new one!
Happy New Year, Ya’ll!!
Merry Christmas from my family to yours!
Every year I am always so excited to create our Christmas cards to send to our family and friends. I love flipping back through all our pictures from the year to find the perfect picture for our card. It seems that every year I always find myself using Minted because I love the huge selection of designs that they have along with how you can add custom elements to each design. Did I mention you can add an electronic address book that allows you to print all the recipients addresses on the envelopes and it’s FREE?! Say hello to less holiday card hand cramps!
It’s official…. A Married Adventure is LIVE!
This blog has been an idea of mine for years, no really, years. Truth be told, I don’t have a ton of extra time on my hands so the blog has always been put on the back burner. Well, back burner no more. I’ve always loved DIY projects, decorating, baking, and lately, styling pictures for my Instagram. I decided it was finally time to take all the things that I love and put them in one place to share with all of you. I hope you enjoy following me on my day-to-day adventures as much as I love sharing them.
What better way to celebrate a blog launch than with a little bit (or maybe a whole lot) of confetti and an oversized champagne balloon?
Welcome to the blog, I look forward to sharing the journey with you!